Define Your Own Pleasure

We hear it all the time: what “good sex” should look like, sound like, feel like. But there’s no single definition of “good sex” because it’s deeply personal.

So many of us get tangled in myths that make us feel inadequate:

✨ It has to be spontaneous and wild.

✨ It should always end in orgsm.

✨ It must be frequent to be fulfilling.

✨ It’s only good if it looks like a movie scene.

The reality is, “good s3x” can be:

🌿 Slow, gentle, and worshiping tenderly.

🌿 Playful, creative, silly, awkward, and full of laughter.

🌿 A conversation of bodies... exploring, pausing, listening.

🌿 Sometimes just holding each other, without any pressure to perform.

🌿 Centered on intimacy, safety, and connection, rather than performance.

The best way to have good sex? Define it for yourself. Tune in to what your body actually wants... not what you think it should want. Allow it to be messy, imperfect, and full of your own unique flavor. Talk about it, explore it, be curious about what gives you pleasure.

What makes sex feel good to you? When we let go of the pressure to “get it right,” we can actually relax into what feels true and be more in the moment. And that’s where the real pleasure lives.

Model: @velvetttempleeros

Photo credit: @ports_by_me